The frequency and duration of chats with new dates can vary greatly depending on individual preferences and circumstances. However, it is common for people in their mid-30s to engage in regular communication with new dates, especially during the early stages of getting to know each other. This may involve daily or every few days' conversations through messaging apps, phone calls, or video chats.

The length of these chats can also vary, ranging from a few minutes to several hours, depending on the level of connection and availability of both individuals. Some may prefer shorter, more frequent conversations, while others may enjoy longer, in-depth discussions.

Knowing when to initiate a chat can be a balance between showing interest and giving the other person space. It's important to be attentive to their responses and cues. If they consistently respond positively and engage in conversation, it's a good sign that they are interested and you can initiate chats more frequently. However, if they seem less responsive or take longer to reply, it may be a sign to give them some space and wait for them to initiate the next conversation. Communication should ideally be a mutual effort, with both parties showing interest and initiating chats at different times.